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Dear Lady Paradise - G-spot Orgasms

So I was chatting with one of my friends the other day and her question was a pretty good one, so I've decided to present it to you like a "Dear Abby" letter.

Dear Lady Paradise,

The other day I was having sex with my boyfriend and everything was going great, it felt sooo good. But then I suddenly had to pee! It totally freaked me out and I lost focus and it all kind of went to crap after that. WTF?

From
I Hate My Bladder

Dear I Hate My Bladder,

I totally understand how the sudden overwhelming need to pee during sex can really kill the mood for you. But it sounds to me like everything was going even better for you than you realized and you were on your way to the elusive G-spot orgasm!

A G-spot orgasm tends to happen in 4 stages, Pain, Pleasure, Pee, then Orgasm.

Pain: As soon as you touch the g-spot, it hurts (but not in the bad way). Have you ever been having sex and you wiggle into a new position and all of a sudden it hurts? Well, chances are, that’s your g-spot! What happens is, our clitoris is made of 8000 nerve endings. These nerve endings go inside the body and dump themselves off at the g-spot. And so, when penetration is happening, or you’re tapping your g-spot with your finger, those nerve endings need some time to desensitize. After about 3 seconds, the feeling will transition into pleasure.

Pleasure: This is when you’ve relaxed and are thinking, “Oh wow, that feels awesome… I could do this all day.” What’s happening is, your g-spot is filling with fluid, which makes it bigger. The bigger it gets, the more you’re going to touch it…. which brings you more pleasure. You’re going to climb this mountain of pleasure until you get to the very top and you feel like you’re going to pee.

Pee: Have you ever stopped sex because you think you are going to pee? So what do you do??? You go to the bathroom, you sit there… and what happens? Nothing, right? Your brain is wired just like a man’s during sex… you cannot feel pleasure and pee at the same time. It’s physically impossible. That’s why it takes some time for your body to relax (aka, lose your lady boner) so that you can pee. So next time you feel that pain feeling, DON’T STOP! What’s really going on is that your g-spot is filling up with so much fluid that it’s actually putting pressure on your bladder (you only have so much room in there). Also, your g-spot is on the same lining as your bladder. So push through it.

Orgasm: After you’ve pushed through it, and it probably takes a good 5-7 thrusts, you’ll get to the orgasm. And here’s what a g-spot orgasm looks like. It starts at your toes. Some women report that they get foot cramps, muscle spasms, charlie horses, push through it… that’s why they sell Advil over the counter.

Then you’re going to feel this warm rush of water race up your body and when it gets to the top of your head it actually shuts off your pre-frontal cortex. You cannot think, feel, hear, or see anything… it’s the only time you can experience absolute euphoria. After about 2 seconds, your brain reconnects and you feel this cold tingle race down your body, and when it gets to your toes, you are so tense that if anyone moved you, you would break.

And then the orgasm starts. You feel this full-body, deep pulse. The pulsing reaches a peak until…. release. And THAT is a g-spot orgasm.

The one problem with G-spot orgasms is that they are something we need to train are bodies to do. While they are completely natural are first instinct is to shy away from them because the signals can be very confusing.

The easiest way to train our body to ride the G-Spot orgasm wave is with a G-spot toy like the Platinum Butterfly Kiss. It's a great introductory G-Spot Vibrator because it also stimulates your clitoris at the same time, not only giving you that extra stimulation but helping your body to relax into the orgasm.

After a while your body will get used to the different sensations of the G-spot orgasm and you will be able to enjoy it with confidence.

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Paradise Pick of the Day: Sub Collar 1.5 Inch Wide Metal Band

This beautiful Sub Collar is a soft neoprene lined collar lined with a polished aluminum accent covering. Comes with a 1 1/2" stainless steel loop and ring as an attach point. A supportive piece with no escape, it's 1 1/2" wide with 3/4" stainless steel buckle. Will fit aprox. 12"-18" neck. This is a great padded collar with a highly polished metal band accent. We use a thinner "skin" on all of our metal band products then anyone out there, allowing the collar to move naturally, instead of constantly having to bend and stress the metal to make it conform to the correct size. If you've ever tried to put a thicker metal banded collar or cuffs on someone then you know what I mean. The metal conforms effortlessly with the leather, for a great look and comfortable fit.

BDSN Basics: Terms to Know Pt. 2

M - Mentor: Usually an experienced Dominant helping other Dominants or submissives to understand the lifestyle and their role.

N - Nipple Clamps: Coming in various styles, these clamps are attached to the submissive's nipples to stimulate and stop blood flow to the nipples.

O - Orgasm Control: When one is forced to hold or releases their orgasm against their body's desire. Can be used as a form of pleasure or punishment.

P - Pony Slave: Play where the submissive is dressed up to portray a pony, sometimes including a mouth bit and saddle, and being ridden around upon.

R - Rubber/ Latex Clothing: Besides leather this is the second most popular material for bondage wear.

S - Shibari: The art of intricate Japanese rope binding. (Also see Bondage).

T - Table Play: A padded table where the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many securing points to offer different positions. If built correctly tables can also be used as racks.

U - Uniform: Any play which involves the submissive wearing a uniform. Maid, cheerleader, etc. Usually used in role play scenes.

V - Violet Wand:A device used during electrical play that discharges electrical energy that, when touched to the body gives off electrical sparks.

W - Waxing: Using warm wax as a type of erotic sensation. Common areas of waxing are back, breasts, buttocks and stomach.

Paradise Pick of the Day - Under the Bed Restraint System

The  Under the Bed Restraint System
Turn any size bed into a place of binding pleasure. Restraint straps quickly fit beneath any mattress or frame without hooks. Restrain your partner’s arms or legs from the sides or the top and bottom of the bed. Portable and travel-sized.. The Under The Bed Restraint System includes four cuffs, four 60 inch restraint straps, and one 60 inch connector strap. Simply slide the restraint straps under the mattress for an instant bondage bedroom. Each 60 inch strap adjusts to fit any size bed. There are multiple ways to position the straps. Use your imagination and restrain your lover for more fun!

BDSM Basics: Terms to Know Pt. 1

A - Aftercare: The time after play when the Dominant takes care of the submissive. Helping them to come out of play headspace and making sure they are alright.

B - Bondage: The restriction of movement of ones body or limbs. This can be done with many different things from silk scarves to Japanese ropes to metal shackles.

C - Chastity Belt: The banning or physical prevention of a person achieving orgasm or genital stimulation in any way. There are both male and female forms of chastity devices.

D - Dominant: The one on top. The person that oversees and controls the direction of the play.

E - Exhibitionism: The act of behaving in such a manner as to draw attention to ones self. Also known as public play and is most often used as a form of public humiliation.

F - Flogger: A whip with many "tails". It can be used all over the body including the genitals but most commonly on the back or buttocks. It is not a tool recommended for novices as you can do serious damage without training.

G - Gags: Used to restrict the use of the mouth, they come in various forms such as fabric, ball and leather. Not to be used for long periods of time as they can be dangerous. One must be careful of restricted breathing.

H - Humiliation: To humiliate a submissive by forcing them to do things that they normally wouldn't do. Often done in public. Eg. Human furniture, puppy play at the park, crossdressing etc.

I - Ice Play: Ice used on the nipples and genitals for the desensitization of nerves.

K - Kneeling: Is used to show a form of respect by a submissive to a dominant. There are different kneeling positions that represent different things, from homage to punishment, to "offering" ones self.

L - Licking: Play involving the "licking" of various body parts.

BDSM Basics: Safe, Sane and Consensual

From the outside the practice of BDSM can seem violent and even cruel to non kinksters or those that practice "vanilla" sex. The idea of one person being dominant and the other submissive can seem counter intuitive in a society that is constantly striving towards gender equality in all areas.

While BDSM may come across as a hedonistic sexual free for all there are basic rules and guidelines that most players follow before they get down to the good stuff. The first and foremost rule to BDSM is "SSC" or "Safe, Sane, and Consensual".

Safe: You must always try to identify and prevent any risk to the health and welfare of yourself an your partner(s).

Sane: Any BDSM play should be taken in a same and rational state of mind. You should not attempt BDSM while in a heightened state of anger or white in any way intoxicated.

Consensual: The activities should involve the fully informed consent of all individuals. The exchange of power is not about forcing a person into activities against their will, it is about accepting and experiencing your desire to serve and be served.

50 Shades of Grey

For a year now it's been everywhere you look. On every bookshelf in every bookstore in every city in North America. 50 Shades of Grey. Inspiring copy cat books with titles from "50 Shades of Sexy" to the more chuckle worthy "50 Shades of Bacon".
Never before has a fictional novel taken sex, (kinky sex at that!) and made it so unrepentantly trendy. EVERYONE is talking about it, love it or hate it when it comes to the books everyone seems to have an opinion. But the majority vote is definitely "WE WANT MORE!"

For women across North America this book has opened up a whole new chapter of their love lives. Things that used to be whispered about silently, fantasies that were once locked inside our now being openly giggled about over mocha lattes at Starbucks.
Riding crops and blind folds aren't just for the self-identified kinksters anymore.

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